Monthly Archives: October 2010

waiting for Superman

My husband really makes me laugh - Sam was working and working at getting his monkey-bar groove back on after a nasty fall (due to jumping from a bridge to the bars) last week. Finally he resorted to this tactic - no gravity issues this way! I said "Oh, are you Superman?! what a great idea!" On the way to the truck Dave says "we were almost waiting for Superman there all day." Sam is Superman for Halloween - I didn't make the connection until today that I sent my kid to school as Superman the week the documentary came to Hawaii!

My husband really makes me laugh - Sam was working and working at getting his monkey-bar groove back on after a nasty fall (due to jumping from a bridge to the bars) last week. Finally he resorted to this tactic - no gravity issues this way! I said "Oh, are you Superman?! what a great idea!" On the way to the truck Dave says "we were almost waiting for Superman there all day." Sam is Superman for Halloween - I didn't make the connection until today that I sent my kid to school as Superman the week the documentary came to Hawaii!

the sound of wind whistling in my ears

The finger of "NO!" One in a series of cute shots taken as I cleaned Ben up from an afternoon at the beach. He was in reef shoes and nothin' else :)

The finger of "NO!" One in a series of cute shots taken as I cleaned Ben up from an afternoon at the beach. He was in reef shoes and nothin' else 🙂

So we are enjoying Dad and Marilou (Grandpa and Grammie) here for two weeks and it’s been a whirlwind of fun, and just life being what it is – a bit crazy. Dave has had a big evolution at work all week, and I have been working on the final (really?) galley of the book I’ve edited over the past two years. So we’ve been a bit nuts lately. I noticed today that as I fly around the house doing chores that have been neglected that there’s a whistling sound in my ears I’m moving so fast! I think it’s my earring in my left ear – a hoop – but it’s pretty funny that I move that quickly. No wonder I spaz out frequently when I’m busy and have two stubbed pinky toes this week to prove it. The nail on one of them was bending backwards with every step in my jog around town doing errands with Ben.  Yuck! Ben did a funny face in the bath last night – he did a big tight grin with just lower teeth showing and said “Wook, I’m a skull!” (We’d been out looking at Halloween costumes for Sam. I think Ben is going to be Peter Pan and his little friend Rachel will be TinkerBell. Any idea where I can find green tights for a small child????)

A swim in the gloaming

We sneaked out to North Beach for a quick swim while Dave was at work Sunday afternoon. Dad and Marilou had been here before but I wanted to show them a little walk we do to look in tide pools as well. We expected the water to be too cold, but it really wasn't. The boys romped for over an hour, jumping off ledges and singing into pretend microphones.

We sneaked out to North Beach for a quick swim while Dave was at work Sunday afternoon. Dad and Marilou had been here before but I wanted to show them a little walk we do to look in tide pools as well. We expected the water to be too cold, but it really wasn't. The boys romped for over an hour, jumping off ledges and singing into pretend microphones.

Last week was pretty busy and this week is looking that way as well. I was on work deadlines last week, took preschool buddies of Ben’s for a hike along with Dad and Marilou, bagged a trip to the commissary on the way back from a peak at the beach, parent-teacher conference, Pa’ina night at the school (nearest translation I could find is “picnic” dinner) with lots of great performances by the kids (hula, percussion, chorus). Sam got excellent marks on his academics – I think top marks on about 30 indicators. We are working on his attention to detail and focus – he tends to not dive right into his workbooks and prefers to look around and daydream or think about things 🙂 Who wouldn’t, right? He is doing two-column math in his head so the workbooks are not very interesting to him. They were too easy two years ago and I couldn’t get him to do them. So the teacher is willing to find more challenging material to engage him. And we are helping Sam understand that sometimes in life, you have to “show that you know” before you can move on to other stuff. Another busy week this week with a 500+ page book manuscript galley due in today that needs to be turned around in 72 hours. Whew!

A rare sighting of the Blue-Bellied Billfish!

Out snorkeling with Dad - having a fun visit with Grandpa and Grammie (Marilou).

Out snorkeling with Dad - having a fun visit with Grandpa and Grammie (Marilou).

Eddie and Myrna Kamae’s premiere

Sam with Eddie and Myrna Kamae before the world premiere of "Those Who Came Before"

Sam with Eddie and Myrna Kamae before the world premiere of "Those Who Came Before"

Wow – what a night! Getting to see Eddie and Myrna’s latest documentary (“Those Who Came Before”), which  chronicles the musical mentors in Eddie’s life, for its premiere was something I will never forget. It is such a privilege to know them, and even more special is the gift of music Sam carries with him, in part inspired by seeing Eddie play with the guys (Sons of Hawaii). Eddie and Myrna are exceptionally special people, and they draw like-hearted people to them. It was such a treat to meet many of their friends as they filed out of the theater afterwards. Sam had a lei on and folks were coming up saying “Oh! It’s Sam, the star!” because he was featured at the end playing his uke with Eddie. This was also Sam’s first time ever to see a movie in a theater, so you can imagine the excitement over a tub of popcorn and some slugs of diet soda! I am surprised he made it through the documentary ;0 I am looking forward to the documentary’s release on DVD next year so we can enjoy it again and again – it is a real treasure getting to hear Eddie’s firsthand accounts of meeting his teachers and how they led him to this lifelong pursuit of creating music as a way to preserve the Hwaiian culture. We are so thankful to have shared time enjoying music with Eddie, Myrna, Madeleine and Rodney the videographer. Sam is even listed as a “featured musician” in the credits! Wow 🙂 Mahalo nui loa, Eddie and Myrna and Madeleine!

 

Catch “Those Who Came Before” at the Sunset on the Beach in Waikiki next Sun Oct 24 – (it’s free) music first, then the screening starts at dusk. I can’t think of a better place to see it than on the beach at sunset!

Ben’s first hair cut + waffle naps

After waffles for breakfast, then some ball playing, drumming and guitar-ing, it grew quiet in the house. I went back to see what was going on and here's what we found - two boys cuddled up for quiet time in Ben's bed! SO cute!

After waffles for breakfast, then some ball playing, drumming and guitar-ing, it grew quiet in the house. I went back to see what was going on and here's what we found - two boys cuddled up for quiet time in Ben's bed! SO cute!

Ben decided he was ready for first haircut. I think he really wanted a lollipop and was really ok with doing just about anything to get one. All three boys got a haircut at the same time :)
Ben decided he was ready for first haircut. I think he really wanted a lollipop and was really ok with doing just about anything to get one. All three boys got a haircut at the same time 🙂

Holiday hike!

Great end to Fall Break - hiking with school buddies. (9 kids under 9!)

Great end to Fall Break - hiking with school buddies. (9 kids under 9!)

More Fall break fun :)

Sam and Dave jamming  - click for video. Dave just started taking some guitar lessons - his first I think. Before that his Dad was showing him the ropes many years ago. We have a picture of Bill playing for Dave when Dave was about this age. Hey Pop Pop - when you come out, bring your guitar?

Sam and Dave jamming - click for video. Dave just started taking some guitar lessons - his first I think. Before that his Dad was showing him the ropes many years ago. We have a picture of Bill playing for Dave when Dave was about this age. Hey Pop Pop - when you come out, bring your guitar?

Hiking buddies spanning 15 time zones!

We went on a hike today with a great collection of new buddies – some found us, we found others. For instance, Jan and Kristina and their little Julius were innocently playing on Kailua Beach when Ben and I got to chatting with them. They are from Germany, but had been living in Portland OR for a couple years on an assignment for Jan, and were between work projects so they vacationed here in Hawaii for two months. We got to take them on a couple hikes – all crammed into our truck (today Jan rode “Hawaiian style” in the back!!!). Brenda and her three kids found me on the beach – they recognized me and the boys from www.outdoorohana.org and told us about the hikes they’d enjoyed after finding the website. So we made plans to connect again and managed to follow through several months later. And Amy found me through Outdoor Ohana as well! We enjoyed a hike together several months ago and have stayed in touch since. So we had three Sams on the trail – 2 two-year-olds and a big Sam. What a great time together – the littlest ones did the whole hike on their own in record speed – all of us were prepared for a long time as they darted and checked things but they really enjoyed hiking along at big-kid speed. We’ll miss Jan and Kristina – they fly back to Ger tomorrow…Aloha!
Thanks to Amy's keen eye, the kids were able to try some fresh strawberry guava! And tall Jan used a stick to grab a high branch so the kids could harvest the guava themselves!

Thanks to Amy's keen eye, the kids were able to try some fresh strawberry guava! And tall Jan used a stick to grab a high branch so the kids could harvest the guava themselves!

 

I think there were 7 kids age 7 and under!

I think there were 7 kids age 7 and under!

the making of men

We went out on a bike/run on base – looking for mud puddles. I have a cold still, but we needed some action. It’s Fall break – time for mischief! It turned out to be a day of pursuing all things “P” – puddles, plover (a bird friend who is back from Alaska), and perseverance. We are all a bit tired still, hard to do what is usually easy for us, but perseverance is one of those traits that is even more important than book knowledge. We know that as parents, but the research says so, too. So there are occasionally opportunities to really feel perseverance in a tangible way. Today offered one of those times. We studied this log, tried it, wiped out, got frustrated, studied some more, built up the dirt ramps together, and went at it again. We prevailed! Mommy even tried it on Sam’s bike and wiped out, too – much to the amusement of the boys 🙂
We had a great time together exploring, then lunch at Gourmet Delight (remember us joking about that place? such a funny name for a place that serves hot dogs and bagels!), and a quick shopping trip to resupply paper towels and napkins – items which had been depleted mopping up the slipperies of last week. We also talked about interpersonal relations a bit – studying how other kids interact with us, how it makes us feel, how we can be thoughtful leaders who care about others and inquire about them (vs the usual me-oriented diatribes which are so prevalent among the kindergarten crew).
And lastly we worked on our running stride a bit – for young men in the making, it’s all about comparing who’s fastest on the playground, who is strongest, etc. While Sam is not often the fastest, he’s usually the strongest. We discussed how one person is not usually everything – fastest, strongest, smartest. We can appreciate all kinds of people and all kinds of God-given gifts if we are observant and not me-oriented. (Sam typically just stands there and watches, waiting for the kids to stop talking and telling all their stories, then goes on about his business.) So it was a great day to spend together with no school. So often parents dread vacations – what to do with the kids!? on a rainy day especially! I am so thankful for the five years I’ve had with Sam – lots of time to enjoy the pursuit of adventure, not dread the expanse of time. You can’t get it back. Tonight we enjoyed looking at pictures together – the boys laughed at laughed at Sam’s faces below 😉
Looking good so far... We are out muddin' around base. Have colds, but need air.

Looking good so far... We are out muddin' around base. Have colds, but need air.

 

Now click on this one to see the face - he already knows how this will end!

Now click on this one to see the face - he already knows how this will end!

Oh boy! He's getting his "landers" out and ready! Click on this one for more face!

Oh boy! He's getting his "landers" out and ready! Click on this one for more face!

what a week! or “what’s that slippery-ness under my feet???”

I am just now coming up for air enough to chronicle the past week. And I’m not sure I can do it justice because I have a sore throat and I really should be in bed. But if I wait too much longer the details will fade and I’ll forget the really funny parts of the gauntlet we’ve just run. I think I’ll do this one in bullets…

  • Friday night – Ben threw up on his way to bath. That’s when we knew it was going to be an interesting night.
  • Saturday – after several ups last night, Ben seemed in good spirits. We went about the day, even hit the air show and carnival at night. Ben ate a few bites of pizza and had shave ice. Seemed like we’d survived.
  • Sunday – went out for crepes – nice morning. Then took a little drive around, went to Byodo In temple to walk the grounds, ring the huge gong, enjoy the peace and quiet. On our way home, Ben drank a bunch of water then seconds later shot a HUGE projectile vomit right toward me. Sam and I made the mistake of laughing. Dave did not think it was funny. There was nothing we could do but boogie home quickly. We were only 10 min away. I feared I’d been exposed – GI bugs don’t usually pass this way but with that load of microbes shooting out just as I laughed…all bets were off. I figured I’d get it. Then I got some in my eye from hosing out his stuff. It sprayed. YUCK.
  • Sunday afternoon – as I worked on the beginning layout of a 500+ page report for the NYS DOH and CDC I began to feel really logey. I kept working furiously. By 6pm I was puking. But I kept cleaning up the house, doing folding, etc. just in case I really went down for the count. Oh yes…and would I ever.
  • Sunday night was spent on the toilet, every 60-90 min. Ben was fine, but Sam was puking, too. TMI I know but I had a bowl with me while on the toilet. It was bad. I would clean Sam up between races to the bathroom. I threw towels down on the hallway carpet to catch whatever wouldn’t make it. By 1am my heart was racing from dehydration. I remembered that from a hospital trip when I was pregnant with Sam. So I began to hydrate despite the risk of triggering more bouts. Glad I did…I was really really weak by then. Dave was feeling gross but still not sick.
  • Monday was a lost day. I couldn’t walk, had a fever, felt horrendous. Sam felt off but not quite as bad.
  • Tuesday – Thursday are also lost days. They were spent furiously wrapping up the huge report (editing, layout, redoing graphics, printing to PDF, bookmarking, epublishing, emails back and forth to the team, reconciling changes, etc.) while taking care of two sick kids. Neither were eating, hard to get them to drink. We were all living off BRAT foods (which I have come to learn are not necessarily mandatory, but what I didn’t know is that we’d been hit with post-bug lactose intolerance). Ben would puke if he drank too much (post GI GERD) and Sam would puke if he had any dairy. This was a new thing for me. I had not seen that before. Our boys had not been in preschool so they were not exposed to as many GI bugs as other kids. The ones we got were 24 hr. This particular virus affects you for 7 days.
  • Wednesday Sam seemed fine enough to go on a field trip to a play about Dinosaurs with his class. I’d volunteered to chaperone, so I helped the teacher get the kids ready, onto the bus, and keep them from getting too wild on the way there. You know what was funny about this? After waiting a bit to get going (while 100 Kindergarteners were loaded on the bus) the diesel smell made a few kids feel funny. As soon as we started winding up the Pali, a couple girls were like “EEEWWWW! I feel SIIIIICK!” I”m like “NOOOOOOOOO! Look at your shoes, pretty shoes! Aren’t those nice shoes!” No one packs barf bags for K field trips? I would!
  • Tuesday was also remarkable for the fact that my computer’s motherboard decided to fail, three months after extended warranty coverage ended. And my insurance rider had an exclusion in it for any manufacturer defect. It would really only cover the computer if I drop-kicked it or one of the boys puked on it. Not just for plain hardware failure. How odd, huh? So I had to go to backup systems – thankfully I have multiple redundancies so I can stay afloat and have various levels of hassle required to get back in business.
  • Friday I bought a new laptop. Insurance will give me $500 toward it ($250 deductible) and now I have a fast new SONY quadcore, with a hot pink keyboard cover. Not taking chances, man! Friday and Saturday were spent reinstalling software, calling the nice guys in India to get Adobe to give me another activation, and getting a sore throat!!! Yay, such fun. Friday night was funny, though, in a sick way. So Ben managed to get a cup with a straw (vs tiny holes) so he guzzled too much water at dinner. I’d made a nice soup/rice casserole to warm everyone now that they had a small appetite. Ben refused to eat and shortly we found out why – he burped and sent about a gallon of watery puke all over the table, dripping down the crack in the leaves to the floor. Sam and I thought it was funny (again) but Dave didn’t. Then the boys were building a tower of Ginger Ale cans while I was busy cleaning up puke again (by this time I am absolutely manic about cleaning – hands, house, you name it, I am a spraying/washing/scrubbing nut). The tower fell over puncturing one can. It started spraying vigorously. I grabbed it but didn’t think to cover the hole. The can sprayed all over the ceiling, stove, glassware, table, floor -all over -on its way to the sink. So the sugar in the soda will be a nice bait for the sugar ants which have been completely overwhelming our bug defenses here. Dave was beside himself by this point, poor guy! He felt yucky all week but never got sick – we’re not sure who was luckier – the night of H-E – double-L I spent or a nasty week?
  • So what does one feed lactose intolerant boys? Much of our life revolves around cheese. This is a new one for us. So we went to McDs. Everyone was quite pleased. We sat safely outside in case anyone had a wet burp. Sam burped right across from Dave and you should have seen Daddy’s face. He was like “Buddy! Point to the bushes!” right next to us. All in all it was a nice night, seated outside by the hibiscus hedge, at someone else’s table, with someone else paid to mop in case we left a deposit. I was quite pleased. I think we might eat there every night. Leslie – I have sure been thinking of you through all this. The massive urpings! OMG!

So now I am off to bed. I hope you have all had a wonderful week. Thankfully the gauntlet revealed the joys of motherhood – I felt so bad for Sam that I prayed asking God to give me his remaining pukes that bad night on Sunday, and thankfully God complied, allowing me to have the worst night so Sam would be spared. You don’t often come face-to-face with wanting to take on your child’s suffering, but I definitely wanted to do that for him. And I have generally kept my sense of humor throughout it all, laughing at the insanity every chance I got. Yes, I was pretty tense during report writing, but that’s life. Two sick kids home with no babysitter able (or willing?) to come to the “hot zone” and kids not interested in “kids” shows because they are boring compared to our normal life out and about. It was challenging. Ben was tatooing me with stickers while I edited. They horsed around on the bed behind me or played in a “band” with their ukes and guitar. It was nuts, but we got it done and initial reactions to this report are “spectacular!” – wow. Cool.

Now I’m digging out of a backlog of work, thankful for a simple sore throat and good times with the family. But really, I honestly would prefer to be healthy right now after this. We had just gotten over a cold before we got slammed with the bug. So if you feel like shooting up a few prayers… I took pictures of the kids here and there during the “siege” so I will post when I can tomorrow. Thanks for bearing with me as I chronicle this experience. Aloha to all and to all a good night!